Friends,
Conflicts are a part of life and due to modern technology it’s easy for misunderstandings to come about. However, conflicts can expose animosity and animosity has nothing to do with misunderstandings; it’s a personal self-loathing expression that one transfers to someone else that they wish they were like.
I personally believe that some conflicts are healthy due to the free range of our belief systems and core values. It’s an opportunity to empathize with someone else to better communicate with them without each party being on the defense.
With that being said, it’s perfectly okay to make your position known without cussing, yelling, calling names, or building a case to support your convictions. One must make a sound decision without guilt, or fear, due to someone else’s inability to effectively communicate.
I personally do not defend myself when someone attacks me. I see it for what it is, and I’m grateful that they chose to express themselves that way, because it confirms what I already knew. We must not overlook the little things that people show us that have the potential to become problematic for us. God gave us the ability to discern light from darkness, truth from a lie, and war from peace. We can not allow our emotions to override wisdom, and common sense.
Hebrews 5 Amp Bible
13 For everyone who continues to feed on milk is obviously inexperienced and unskilled in the doctrine of righteousness (of conformity to the divine will in purpose, thought, and action), for he is a mere infant [not able to talk yet]!14 But solid food is for full-grown men, for those whose senses and mental faculties are trained by practice to discriminate and distinguish between what is morally good and noble and what is evil and contrary either to divine or human law.
Most people are comfortable with being ugly via text, email or chat, but if you ask to speak with them to resolve anything, you won’t get any feedback on that. It’s because their motive was to upset you enough to cause you to lash out on them to support what they have told others about you. Never give people what they want, give them what they need. Show them that you have self-control, wisdom, and discernment by keeping your conversation on the topic.
Always remember that a person that attacks your character first has no intentions on resolving anything. They only want to PROVE you are not who you appear to be. It is far better to keep silent or be short with your response than it is to converse with someone who is irrational. When you do this count yourself among the wise, not among the weak. It takes strength to not be overtaken by your emotions. Selah!
Proverbs 20:3 Msg Bible
It’s a mark of good character to avert quarrels, but fools love to pick fights.
Conflicts are a part of life and due to modern technology it’s easy for misunderstandings to come about. However, conflicts can expose animosity and animosity has nothing to do with misunderstandings; it’s a personal self-loathing expression that one transfers to someone else that they wish they were like.
I personally believe that some conflicts are healthy due to the free range of our belief systems and core values. It’s an opportunity to empathize with someone else to better communicate with them without each party being on the defense.
With that being said, it’s perfectly okay to make your position known without cussing, yelling, calling names, or building a case to support your convictions. One must make a sound decision without guilt, or fear, due to someone else’s inability to effectively communicate.
I personally do not defend myself when someone attacks me. I see it for what it is, and I’m grateful that they chose to express themselves that way, because it confirms what I already knew. We must not overlook the little things that people show us that have the potential to become problematic for us. God gave us the ability to discern light from darkness, truth from a lie, and war from peace. We can not allow our emotions to override wisdom, and common sense.
Hebrews 5 Amp Bible
13 For everyone who continues to feed on milk is obviously inexperienced and unskilled in the doctrine of righteousness (of conformity to the divine will in purpose, thought, and action), for he is a mere infant [not able to talk yet]!14 But solid food is for full-grown men, for those whose senses and mental faculties are trained by practice to discriminate and distinguish between what is morally good and noble and what is evil and contrary either to divine or human law.
Most people are comfortable with being ugly via text, email or chat, but if you ask to speak with them to resolve anything, you won’t get any feedback on that. It’s because their motive was to upset you enough to cause you to lash out on them to support what they have told others about you. Never give people what they want, give them what they need. Show them that you have self-control, wisdom, and discernment by keeping your conversation on the topic.
Always remember that a person that attacks your character first has no intentions on resolving anything. They only want to PROVE you are not who you appear to be. It is far better to keep silent or be short with your response than it is to converse with someone who is irrational. When you do this count yourself among the wise, not among the weak. It takes strength to not be overtaken by your emotions. Selah!
Proverbs 20:3 Msg Bible
It’s a mark of good character to avert quarrels, but fools love to pick fights.
